Wednesday, April 20, 2011
The Word Plus Size is Gross
I was doing a little research for my next FitPerez.com video and came across a really obnoxious article. My topic was not plus size fashion, so much as how to deal with the wardrobe nonsense losing weight throws your way. It's an annoying problem to have the constant shifting. What people forget is that you do not just get smaller, but your entire body changes. I had to adjust to this, my whole shape changed and had changed since the last time I saw it. I get clothes, I get dressing for your shape, and I was excited to do this for FP. I did however want to poke around and see if there were any tips I was not thinking of. I stumbled on to this one site that basically instead of offering any real constructive tips just reinforced that your body is bad, should be covered, and there should be no joy taken in it. I found it really negative and also wrong. I think just because your body is curvy or not the industry standard you do not have to dress to a whole different standard. Every single body has to be dressed specifically for it to best highlight it. You have to learn your body and not be told to wear long jackets to hide lumps and bumps (for real, why not suggest a monks robe?).
Women have enough negative body image they put on themselves but to see people suggesting advice that really is about hiding your body just made me angry. There is a lot to be said for people who hold themselves with confidence and embrace their bodies. I love Nicki Minaj for her embracing and celebrating of her body. Have you ever seen her booty? It's magnificent. I truly have a butt crush on it. I love that she's not wearing things that cover it up but instead performing in a bedazzled catsuit. Would that be right for me? No, I would feel a little nakey and afraid something I did not want the world to see would pop out, but I love that she does it.
I am pushing myself to let go of my own negative body image and the more I do the more I react to people's own self negging and the reinforcement of it. I hate the word plus size. Why is it not just size? Calling it just a size is not endorsing unhealthiness or obesity. I know there are lots of women out there who have really fit, toned, incredible bodies that are a not a size 8, 10, or 12 but gasp bigger. They are only plus awesome not size and very little of it should be covered up or told it's wrong.
I struggle with thinking men find me attractive. This is for a few reasons, but predominantly it's because I don't get hit on, or approached by them. Dumb I know but hey not all fears or any fears really are rational. One of my animators, who is 24 years old, and a skinny, hipstery dude, a type I would think I would be as appealing to as a male bison gave me the best compliment ever. It stopped me dead in my tracks, and has made me feel a shift in my own body revolution. He asked me why I don't make moves on guys, and amongst several other reasons I said well part of me thinks I am too fat. I also admitted that I knew that was a little cray cray and why I still see Marisa once a week for the record. He said 1. you are not fat, he then confirmed that we were in fact off the clock and friends and I was not his boss at this point in time, and I said yes, and 2. when it comes to you and your figure I have one word, damn, this was said in a more daaayyyum fashion. I will take a damn any day and it brightened my entire night and made me think very differently about my body. Sometimes it takes one damn to make you rethink years of gross. My body is not gross, or undesirable. The perception of curves and women who do not fit some sort of model/mold that no one can define being wrong or needing to be covered is gross.