Friday, October 12, 2012


A friend of mine is going through a break up and he is seriously heartbreak hotel. It's interesting though because the break up has kicked up some soul searching for him outside of heartbreak. I give him a lot of credit for the way he's looking at himself. I sure as shit know it's not easy.

 It's also exposed me to a different side of him. As much as he says I thought I was guarded before but oh man am I now, there's a wall, with cinder blocks, and barbed wire and alligators surrounding it now. I disagree. He's shared more with me about himself, his thoughts, and feelings then he has in years of friendship and not just the mushy heart stuff, but everything.

Anywayz he told me about this TED talk on vulnerability, and I covered up my shock at a dude telling me about it and made a note to watch. Then I did after I got home still mulling over lots we had discussed, and then I proceeded to watch it again, and again and then tell everyone I know about it. That's just how I roll. I get hopped up on something and think I'll just burst if everyone I know doesn't know about it. This is good and bad because a lot of people now know how good salted dark chocolate  is. Sorry, I'm not sorry.

Watch and then lets meet back to discuss, and BREAK!


  1. I enjoyed this video, thanks for sharing!
    I feel that I have experienced both sides of vulnerability, both welcoming it and shunning it. For a long while, I was very unhappy with myself, It held me back from a lot of opportunities, and it was very hard to overcome it. Through a lot of reflection, positive self talk, and over all "soul searching" I opened myself up to self-love instead of self-loathing, and it has helped me immensely in dealing with vulnerability.
    It still can feel uncomfortable (starting a new job, joining a committee with women I don't know, putting myself out there professionally) but I feel that it helps me grow and become a better, stronger person.

  2. Thanks for sharing! That was my first TED talks video and it will not be my last.

  3. Amie- I'm still finding my way with it. I think I struggle to understand what healthy vulnerability is which holds me back. I think I am WAY to sensitive to it and like oh no that's being emotionally slutty. It's not. I have to remind myself that change and being uncomfortable while not always pleasant not necessarily a bad thing.

    Joyski- Oh geez...get ready to lose hours of your life and make your brain hurt. TED talks is one of the few good obsessions I have I think. It at least enriches my brain.